He aha ka kāu hana ke hoopau i ka mare?

ʻOiai hou haʻawina hōʻike i noho mare - ka mea, 'o kekahi o ka maikaʻi mea e hiki ke hana no oe ia oe iho, akā, i kēia hana o inevitably eiiieaena a me ka pilikia. Ma kekahi mare mākou i ka lākou o nā hana kūleʻa o ka pelekikena a me nā kuleana i loko o ka hale, a hiki i ka mea naʻau a me ka 'īnea, ao ke ano o ka pili. Kou wā e hiki mai ua pono i pili i ka hoalawepu ma na aoao.

Akā, i kēia wā e hiki mai, he pono ole i ole ia i ka manawa ina ke mau apo la ma unhealthy hana. He nui na manawa e hoomaka ana e huli i ka psychologists. Kilo'ōlelo aku nei au i ka 60% o ka Leomakana kōkua i imi, e apo la i loko o kekahi o kaʻawahia hana elua: e kue ana-paa a me kaʻenemi-e kaukaʻi. Kēlā me kēia no ka'ōlelo mea ino no kou pilina, a me ka mea nui nō ka hailonaʻana no kekahi mau kumu.

Keʻano o ka "kue-hoʻokaʻawale" ua ho'ākāka 'ia ma ka makau

No nā mea naʻau kamepiula olelo hoa aku i na mai o ka mea ia e kūkākūkā ka mea, i nā wā a me ho'āʻo e hana me ia pono Loaʻaʻia. E like me ka hopena, e ho'āʻo e hoʻololi ia oe iho, e oluolu ia i kou hoa, no ka mea, ma keia hihia,ʻaʻoleʻo ia e hoole aku oe, a me ka hina. Kela a me keia kanaka i loko o keia mau kūpono o kā lākou mau makemake a me kā lākou paha, ka '- mea i ke kanaka me.

ʻenemi-e kaukaʻiʻano ua nānā 'ia ma ke kaua

Ma keia hihia, kēlā hoapili ia manaoio ana ia mea pono. Nolaila, nā hoa e ho'āʻo ana e lawe mea a pau ma lalo o ka mana hoʻomalu ma, oiai e hoohewa ana i ka 'ē aʻe. Ke nń ku mea mahuʻi ka mea, inā e hiki ke kuhikuhi i ka pilikia i loko o ka pilina, ka mea e e aho e kamailio e pili ana ia i kekahi kanaka, a laila e kōkua kiʻi i kekahi ke ola.

Ka pilikia mea i nā o kēia mau hōʻeuʻeu hana mea nae he olaʻano papa hana, a ua hanaʻia ka wā pu i ka hui i ka hāhai oi a oi manawa.

? Ac? O pili

Ka hapanui o ka'ēpoda, hoʻomaka lākou pilina me ka mea a lakou e makemake e noho me kekahi i kekahi, ka mea makemake eʻauʻau kai, a me kēlā mea pane maʻalahi i kā lākou hoapili ia. Like i loko o ka mea'ē aʻe kanaka o ka'ōnaehana o Hawaiʻi hoʻomaka e ikeia kekahi, o kela mea keia kanaka ma ka reflex ilikai UOAAaOON e Makuakane me ka hou pilikia. Inā ka hoeeia e kue-pani, i kekahi e lawe mai i ka luna o ka hoa pāonioni, no ka mea, ka mea e ole makemake e aggravate i ke kaua. Ma kēia hihia, na hoa hoʻomaka e kau ia lakou iho ma kamepiula.

Inā ka pilina e hoʻomōhala ai, kēlā hoalawepu, e i, e hele aku ma ka ke koikoi kaʻina o differentiation, ma kēlā me kēia kanaka pono hoakaka kona nā loina, a hoolilo ia lakou i ka 'ē aʻe. Akā,ʻo nā wahi ike i ko lakou nui 'ē aʻe hiki i kekahi cia, i mai ole coincide me kā lākou iho. Ka hopena paha e ka Hopu i loko o ka pilina a me ke kaawale ana.

Differentiation hoʻomaka ka wā i kekahi kanaka nō e lawe i ke kamepiula i ka olelo, a ma ka pono, hoʻomaka e kaua aku no ko lakou mau pono. Mau poe hui, ua maluhiluhi o compromising ia iho, no laila, e'ōlelo aku, ka mea, "au e haalele ana, au i, e hoʻomaka e kamailio pu ana, e like nae kaʻu kane e haʻalele mai iaʻu. Au e haalele ana, au e imi i ke ala, e noho ma luna o lākou iho. "