"Magic" nä hopuna i e hiki e hoola i ka awkward kamailio ana

Kēlā me kēia o ko mākou kekahi manawa i manao ai ke koikoi iloko o ke kamailio ana, a me ka oiaio no, aole makemake ole ia e hoʻi i loko o ka ia kulana. E like me ka kekahi o na rula o ke kākā'ōlelo, eiaʻaʻohe wahi, i hiki i ole e hou me ke kōkua o ka luawai i koho nä hopuna hiki.

Eia nō ehiku malama pono kōkua ka poe i makaukau i kekahi manawa, e hoola i ka awkward kamaʻilio.

compliments

More pinepine paʻakikī no mākou, e hoomanao i ka inoa o ka hou hoalauna, no ka mea, ka hapanui o ko mākou noonoo ua hoʻomōhala ma luna o nā mea a mākou e olelo aku e hiki mai ana. Kekahi o ka loa ka hoʻokō liana, e hoomanao i ka inoa i ka mea ia manawa, e pale aku i ka pilikia o makou a me kaʻoihana o ka interlocutor ia ia iho - he compliment, oiai hou i ka hou inoa. Inā 'oe e olelo aku, no ka laʻana, "Alice, au maoli e like kouʻaʻahu, ka mea oiaio o oe," laila, i ka inoa, e e hoʻomanaʻo wikiwiki a me ka hou hoa makemake eʻoluʻolu, e hoolohe i ka compliment. E ho ohana i noʻonoʻo a me ka unobtrusive compliments e kōkuaʻoe e wale, e hoomanao i ka mea e ae, aka, e e hoʻomanaʻo no hoi. Eia hou, ma hope o ka hua'ōlelo kiʻi i loko o kona helu wahi o ka mea i oi kaʻauiʻana o kamailio ana, a e kōkua pale pilikia o makou.

ninau

Haʻawina hōʻike i ke loiloi i ka pomaikai o ke kamailio ana me ka hou poʻe ma muli mea hou mea mākou i mai la, i ka'ōlelo. Eia hou, ka hapanui kanaka i nui leʻaleʻa, e kamailio ana ia lakou iho, i ko lakou mau hana hoʻonanea, inā pilikia ka haumāna a me na hihia o ke ola ma mua o ka ai ana, ae inu ana a hiki mele. Mauʻikepili ke kōkua iā mākou e hana i ka pono mua kamaʻilio i kona mau interlocutors. Pehea? E noi ana noʻonoʻo nīnau - ka poe mea e ole koi hoa o ka 'ike, akā, i ka mea ia manawa pono hōʻike mākou kuleana i loko o kā lākou laʻelaʻe. Oe ke noi aku e pili ana i punahele papa ma waho o ka hana, punahele wahi i loko o ua kūlanakauhale lā. Pale nīnau i hiki haawi monosyllabic pane, e like me na ninau e pili ana i ka hana, pilikino ola a me ka kālai'āina. One IeIAaUIIe koho o ka ninau o ka loa manao hanana o ka makahiki no ka laʻana.

Nane a me otgadki

Malama i ka hana hoihoi kamaʻilio ma kekahi nīnūnē mea hiki ole. He nui ia e hoihoi i loko o kona interlocutor, e huki iā ia i loko o ka "holoholona hihiu." Mau makamaka, e lawe i ka palapala o ka Hana ń, aʻaʻole ma ka hālāwai ninaninau me ka prospective luna. A ala nui e enliven i ke kamailio ana i ka mea pohihihi. Ma hope togokak mākou i aʻo e pili ana i hana hoʻonanea, punahele wahi, a no laila, ma luna, e hiki ninau aku, "Hike mea aʻu i ike ai i nehinei i loko o kou punahele cafe?". A i 'ole, "E iaʻu koho i mea hōʻike no nā novelties oe makemake!" Kēiaʻano hana o ka hoa i ka hou' ehaʻeha o kamaʻilio.

naʻau i loko

¶ʻAʻohe mea maikaʻi ma mua o ka holomua hoao e hoʻoikaika i kona hoa. Inā ke kumu mea,ʻaʻole loa hoihoi i loko o ka pomaikai o ke kamailio ana, ninau aku ia ia i ka loiloi i kou lā ma luna o ka umi wahi pālākiō. Kēia e puʻe ke hoalawepu, e manaʻo e pili ana, a pau, aolie e wehewehe i kona helu. Once oe he paena loaa ka pane, a hiki ina ia mea he paa mau, e noi i ke kumu, ka mea e hiki ke hana e hoala mai i ka olelo a ma ka liʻiliʻi loa i ka elima. Loa ia paha, 'aʻole' oe i ia hana i kekahi mea, akā, ua mahalo i ka lima kolohe 'ana.

walohia

O ka malu, a me paha ka loa ka hoʻokō mea i loko o ka arsenal o kekahi horn, a hiki i ka hapanui novice. People Pono walohia, a hiki ina e hoole ia. Mākou iʻoluʻolu mai i ka ike i ka mea manaʻo mākou hana paakiki, a me ka hooulu ana i na mau keiki, a me ka ilio a pau - he tricky pāʻoihana. Simple hua'ōlelo "ka mea, 'o paha nui paakiki" e hana i ka interlocutor haha nui aku hōʻoluʻolu.

kōkua

I ka hoʻokumuʻo ka makua kāne o kaʻAmelika Hui Pūʻia a me ke kaulana inventor Beniamina Franklin i kākau ai i ke kanaka i kekahi manawa, i kōkua mai iā mākou i e makaukau e hana ia hou me ka oi ka olioli ma mua o ka mea nāna i kōkua mai iā mākou. Kana mau olelo i hookupaa iho la ia ma na mea he nui haʻawina. Inā 'oe i noi mai no ke kōkua ma ka hoʻoponopono i ka pilikia,'ōlelo aʻo,' oihana a pilikino manao o ka hou hoalauna, oia ka oi paha e haha aku walohia no oe. Paha keia hana, no kela mea keia mea o mākou makemake i ka pau pono keia mau mea a me ka 'ike kanaka. Nolaila, ina e makemake, e hana i ka maikaʻi manaʻo ma luna o ka interlocutor, ninau aku ia ia no ka'ōlelo aʻo. A me ka hapanui o importantly, e ia i ia oe, e kona mau manao loa hana hoihoi a me ka maikaʻi kēia i loaʻa.

paa

Kēlā me kēia holomua noho pono he graceful a me ka polite paʻaʻana. Loa ae i keʻano o e hele mai ai i mea ole, a plunge i loko o ua awkward pae ka wāʻaʻoleʻaoʻao ike mea e hana - e hoʻomau paha e hoʻokanaka. I ka wa e hele mai ai i kona hopena, pau ia elegantly ka hoʻohana 'ana i ka hopuna'ōlelo "au eʻaʻole monopolize i kou noonoo." Mai poina e aloha aku i ka interlocutor no ka mea maikai manawa pau keia la a me ka paipai aku ia ia oe i, ua oluolu o, e halawai pu me oe.

Inā 'oe e ma kekahi aoao, e hiki ke hoʻopau i ke kamailio ana me ka hopuna'ōlelo "au ua hauoli eʻauʻau kai, akā, au i kekahi mea i koʻu hoa, e olelo aku ia i waiho mua." Mai poina e pili ana i ka holomua kapa rula: e aho e kū ana ia ma ka piko, ma mua o haawi ia e ho one i loko o ka lua.