No ke aha la e na keiki nahu mai i ko lakou mau maiuu. 'Ehaʻeha ka a me kāu kiʻina hana o ka paio a me ka maʻa

Kāu keiki e nahu mai kona mau maiuu ua no na kumu, ina paha ia e boredom, stress a me ka lanakila. He mea a pau mawaena o ka ai-kapaia inoʻano, i ke koko, e like me ka manamana nui omo, ihu ia ohiu, lauoho wahī ma na manamana, etc. Eia hou kekahi, ia mea i kēia maʻa pinepine neiʻoniʻoni i loko o adulthood.

No ke aha la e na keiki nahu mai i ko lakou mau maiuu? ʻoihana kaua, kaʻina e lawe aku i kekahi keiki i ka hailona o ka iini, he nui o kona mau makua i i ka ike ole. Inā kāu keiki nahu kona mau maiuu ua moderately (i ka hoʻoponopono-hewa), unconsciously (e like, e kiai ana TV), a hana no hoi ia wale nō ma kekahi mau wahi, i hiki (no ka mea hoike, ma mua o ka lehulehu hana a me ka mana hana) - i kēia mea pono ke ala e Makuakane me ka uuku stress, a 'aʻole' oe i ke hopohopo e pili ana.

Loa paha, kāu keiki e koke hooki oe e hana ai iho. Eia naʻe, ina e manao ana oia nahu i kona mau kui kona lōʻihi, a me 'oe wale hiki ole noho indifferent i keia maʻa, he mea he ala, e kōkua i ke keiki i ka naaupo, biting kona mau maiuu.

Mua o nā mea a pau, ho'āʻo mea o ke kumu i ke kumu no keia hana, e ike. Paha kāu keiki uaʻike piʻi stress, ma i oe pono e hana pu. Inā 'oe ke koho mea e ia i ke kumu o ka pū waikaua (hou neʻe aku, oki ana o na makua, he hou kula, a me ka wā e hiki mai hana o ko lākou mau na¯), ho'āʻo e kamailio me kāu keiki e pili ana i mea i bothering ia ia. IeAUPIIe, IAa IO, ka mea, ua oi huikau ma mua o ka mea pono, akā, inā 'oe e akoakoa ai i kekahi mau paena, no kekahi laʻana, i manaoia me he mea kala ridiculous hōʻoia ( "au i! Pela no oe āu e makemake ana e hoʻokala i ko lakou mau kui ia ia!"), It ke hana, a me ka paipai i kāu keiki, e hai aku ia oe e pili ana i kā lākou mau anxieties . 'O kēia kekahiʻaoʻao i maopopo ke kumu keiki nahu i ko lakou mau maiuu.

Hana ole nag a hoopai i kāu keiki. Kaawale mai ka hihia i loko o ka mea ana i ka manao pono makemake biting i kona mau kui i ka pau ana, he mea uuku oe ke hana no ia. Like nā ko mākou hopohopoʻano, ka mea, IeAUPIIe, IAa IO hana unconsciously, nānā 'ole o ke kumu keiki nahu i ko lakou mau maiuu. Inā i ke keiki, aole ia i hoi nana ole i ka mea hana, e scold a hoopai ia loa lapuwale. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, i nā mākua i kekahi manawa, paʻakikī loa e pakele ana i kēia mauʻano (kekahi manawa au nahu kona mau maiuu ua mua ia e kekahi kālā hoike paha, e hele i ka oihana i ke Alii o). Inā mea oiaio bothers oe, e ho'āʻo e hoonoho i kekahi mau hoʻokau ': no ka laʻana, e mai e ke kui biting ma ke awakeaʻaina.

Inā ua e hana ino aku i kāu keiki oe ia oe iho, a mai nana he uuku au, i ka mea maikaʻi 'oe e hana ai - kahi me ka pahi kui pōkole lawa e hoʻomaopopo iā ia i ka pono no ka pinepine holoi i ko lakou lima, a me ka ole i ka uku ia ia i ka maʻa o ka noonoo ana o kona. Inā 'oe Kauai i ka puʻe,ʻaʻoleʻike ke kumu keiki nahu lākou mau mākia, e holo i ka pilikia o ka mahuahua stress a me exacerbate i ke kulana. A, i ka pololei 'uao ma kou aoao, no ka mea hoike, i ka pono o ka mea kahinu, me kaʻawaʻawa loa ono, hiki ke manao ia e ke keiki me ka hoopai ana. Ka emi noonoo anaʻoe, e hāʻawi mai i kēia maʻa, ka nui wale, he mea ia ia e koke nalo mai kou ohana ke ola.