Constructive, huʻi, luku - ia Ka e pili ana i? O ka holo ana, i kāna hana!

Hoopiiia a me ka hoinoia, a me ka hoohaahaa ana, huhu, hāʻule pohō wale a me ka huhū - kēia mau luku Emotions a pau loa imua i ka kaua wahi, i hiki. I ka hana ma ka clash o ka manaʻo a me ka hana ana o na aoao elua - alapahi,'ōlelo hōʻinoʻana, ua pua i nā lima, malama ole, huhū - i ka hopena o ka confrontation hilinaʻi nui.

Ke kumu no ka oko

Ke hoopapa - luku kaua. Constructiveʻano o hiki wale hana ana i ka maʻamau nohona AaOIeIOUIeXAOAaIN. Ke impetus no ka confrontation i lilo loa kekahi mau manaʻo, akä, a me nā kumu:

• aneiai;
• waiwai;
• ke aupuni,-lāhui;
• pilikino E pili;
• haipule;
• kanaka;
• 'ē aʻe.

Kekahi o ko lākou mau aoao poino, mai ka poe pono ole 'ana - ka mea, o ka mea. ʻO kekahiʻaoʻao - ke kumuhana - na mea i i kekahi kaua kulana i. I hookuu, i ke kumu o ke kue ana i ke kumuhana i hanaʻia kekahi mau hana i pili i ka "loaa ana"ʻaoʻao, hoopukaia ma muli o ka kūpono 'pane.

Ano o ka oko ao a me kāna hana e lawelawe

Psychologists maopopo ma waena o nāʻano o nā hoopaapaa:

• constructive;
• luku kaua.

A constructive hookokoke mau loaʻa i ke ala mai ia, e panai ai i nāʻaoʻaoʻelua. Mahalo i ka makakū hoʻokokoke i ka hoʻoponopono i ka pilikia o ka hoʻomaikaʻi ae hoomaopopo a me ka pili ma waena o kanaka.

Luku - ia mea he kue i mea ole alakaʻi i ka pāʻoihana o ka palapala pilikia. Hikiʻole a me ka unwillingness, e hoʻolohe i ka hoa paio, kālailai i kona manaʻo hoʻopiʻi kū'ē, ka mea hoʻonoho o ka confrontation - a pau i kēia hiki aku ai i ka make ana o kona piko a.

A ano hiʻona o ka puka paha-Soviet moʻomeheu o ka maʻa o "ke kīloiʻana" kā lākou'ōhumu mai me ka koke nā wahi. Ka muli o "kue kaula" hiki hoʻomaka i ke kakahiaka ma ka amo ai ma luna o ke alanui, e hoʻomau i ka hana a pau i loko o ka 'ohana hale. Nā hana quibbles, i ho'ōho ai, a e hāʻiliʻili aku alakai i ka naoh kūpono: kokoke kanaka haha aku pöʻino, ko mākou hopohopo. One ola kulana home 'ole hookahe no ma loko o nā Emotions, "explode" e like me ka lua pele, rupture o ka hoahanau mea inevitable ... a me ka pololei i ke hoʻoneʻe aku, mai ka hopena maikaʻi a me ka ole, e kauo i ka "ioni?" Me mākou.

No ke aha lā kāna hana e lawelawe i kekahi manawa maikaʻi kēia

O ka hoopaapaa i loko o kekahi hui, ma ka hale a ma ka hana hōʻike i nāʻokoʻa a me inconsistencies ma waena o ka mea mawaho, blurts aʻe, a me ka nonverbal, wahi malu hoi ike. Eia nō kekahi mau hihia, kahi keia e hiki mai ana:

• hoʻonaʻauao 'ole ke ola ka hoao ana hui alakaʻi haʻahaʻa ma mua o? aaiuo;
• imi naʻauao kiʻekiʻe o ka pūʻulu loli aʻe nunui;
• ike ole o na ki ina hana like o ka pāʻoihana 'ōlelo;
• mea hoʻonoho ma luna o nā kū'ē;
• ka makemake no ka mana ki ina hana like o ka 'ōlelo;
• mismatching pahu hopu.

Luku keʻano o ka hanaʻana mai i lawe mai i ka pomaikai, aka, ia mea kekahi manawa pono: i loko o ke kue ana kulana home 'ole ma luna o ka ili o ka naʻokoʻa ma ka mâkia, huna discord a me ka eha ma ka naau. Inā e pili i nā 'ana i kūpono o ka hana kamaʻilio, i kekahi luku pilina kue kulana home' ole hiki ke unuhi 'ia i loko o ka constructive kamaʻilio. Ka hoopaapaa luku - ia mea he paio no ka mana, ka mea, o ka huhu, lilo o ka maka, stress, nele o nā pāʻoihana a hiki i ka pilikia.

About constructive kāna hana e lawelawe

I ka waiwai o ka mea kue i ka ia nei hoa paio kulana möakäka hou i loko o ka papa o ke kūkākūkā, aka, ma mua o paio a me ka ea. People i increasingly ike o ko lākou mau manaʻo hoʻopiʻi kū'ē iho i ka manawa, e wehewehe i ko lakou mau hoalawehana. 'Aʻohe i ho'ōho ai, a me ka recriminations ae hoohaahaa ana. Ke bulk o ka noonoo ana o na i komo o ka confrontation pahuna i loaa ia aoao o ka hoʻoponopono i ka pilikia, e makemake ana ia ma mua o ka suppression o ke kanaka hoa paio. Kamaʻilio akula i nā kumu o ke kue ana ma waena o nā komo o na clashes o ka manao e kukulu maʻamau mau hoahanau, i ko lakou wahi e pili ana i kekahi i kekahi mea, hoʻololi.

Nā kumu o ke kue ana i ka na kanaka a me na wahine e loaʻokoʻa. No ka wahine ka mea, he pono ke kino e pono ai, e like me ka uku, maika, bonuses a me Kauai, e māʻona. Ke kime i ka hana kaumaha lewa a kiʻekiʻe workloads 'elele "explode" ka nawaliwali ke keka mua, akā, wikiwiki a me ka hiki pono o ka mālie ia.

No ka mea kane hapalua mai o ka waiwai kauoha kūlana haʻahaʻa, kaʻaeʻana me ka hana pono a me ka hana, i ke alo o kekahi ano o ka subordination. Ma ka hihia o overloading a me ka 'aʻe' ana i mea e pono ai, na kanaka hoard hou ka hoomauhala,ʻaʻole splashing ia i loko o ke kime.

Pehea e hana i constructive pāʻoihana pili

Ana i kekahi mau rula a me kāu kiʻina hana o ka pāʻoihana kamaʻilio, me kēia haumāna e pāʻani aku me he hookahi meaola. I ka hala koe he clash o ka manao, a na ka kaua i luku - mea he ano o "pahu", he ano o ke kaua, e lawe ana i ka lukuia, i loko o nā manaʻo o ka 'ohana, a me ka hana. No peacefully huli i hoʻomāhuahua ai pāʻoihana i na aoao elua e hoomau aku like penei:

• wale kūkākūkā i kēia kahe, aʻaʻole i ke kanaka ke kanaka me kāna moʻolelo;
• hoomanao i na hui i kekahi i kekahi mea i ka enemi;
• koiia hoike ana ka inaina, ukiuki noa, makemake ia e hoopono mai paha e hoʻopaʻi;
• mana hoʻoholo epekema hiki wale nō ke hana hewa;
• e paku ana i ko lakou wahi iho o ka hoomaopopo, ia mea nui, e lawe i ka mooolelo o ka pono o ka hoa paio;
• AaOIeIOUIeXAOAaIN E e aloha a me ka hamama;
• nā kānaka hoʻokūkū pono e hoʻoikaika i loko i ka naauao a me ke alu like.

Ikaika e hahai ana i ka rula, a loʻohia i ka pāʻoihana palapala? Aieao, e hiki mau imi i ke ala e Haʻalele i ke kulana. Inā kekahi o kaʻaoʻao kū'ē aoao i ka lua hookae mai, ka mea a pau kaʻina hiki ke hele mai o ka hooponopono ana, a lilo i ka luku. Ka mea e pōmaikaʻi ai,ʻaʻole kekahi o na aoao elua, a hiki waleʻokoʻaʻoi loa maila.