Assertiveness - Ua ... Na rula o ke kuleana pilikino. Generalʻike manaʻo

Kaukaʻi ma ka manao o kanaka keakea, i noho i ka piha a me ka lei o ke ola. Ua meaʻaʻole paha i kekahi e makemake, ina e dictate kanaka'ē iā ia ia mea, e hana, ka olelo hooholo, e lawe ia, e hookomo i mea e ai ai, pehea e nana, a no laila, ma luna o. Akā, ka mea i hiki ole ia makou ke kōkua i nā lā o ka hookauwa ana'ku ku okoa ana o ke koho ana o ka pilikia o ka strangulated. Pehea la e hiki ai i ke kanaka e ka piha-fledged noa, a aʻole i 'aʻe i ka pono a me ke ku okoa ana o na mea e ae?

Aia i ka manaʻo o "assertiveness" ma kaʻike manaʻo, e ka loa pololei wehewehe i ka pololei hana o ka makua, ka hoʻoponopono-maopopo koʻu manao i kanaka. E ka hoʻomaka me ka mea i assertiveness - he kaila o ka hana, ke ano e like ai i mau hiʻohiʻona nō kekahi kanaka me ka aggression, e hoomalu aku i na palena o ka wahine paha, a me ka hoomalu i ko lakou mau pahu hopu a me ka pono, oiai e hoike ana ke ahonui, a me ka mahalo i ka hoa paio. He aha nō nā symptoms a me ka hana wehewehe aku ma ka assertive kanaka?

ka nele o ka aggression

Mua o nā mea a pau, he kanaka me kēia mau ano o ke ano, 'aʻole e hōʻike aggression.
He nui e hoailona oukou i ka hookoikoi a me ka manaʻo nei ke - kekahi mau mea. Aia nā poʻe i hiki mana lākou Emotions pono, no laila, i ka mea, i ole hiki externally. Akā, me ka ma waho olelo o ka helehelena mea ole i ka olelo aku i loko o ke kanaka, aole ia i i ka ino. Assertive kanaka nā externally a i loko o e haha nanea wale.

Kūpono pokole o ka hoʻoponopono a me ka 'ē aʻe

Keia ano kekahi Hōʻike ke alo aku o ke kanaka assertiveness. I ka ikaika, ole-ʻano pākīkē kanaka mākou ke pane i mau hoʻonāukiuki loa ma ka aoao o na mea e ae, ka mea, aole ia e hoʻokō i kekahi i kā mākou e pono ai i ka hoa paio, aole hoi e lawe aku i kekahi kuleana no kaʻawaʻawa loa kamailio ana, a hai aku la ia ia e pili ana ia. A me ia i heluia, no ka interlocutor, i ke kanaka ia ia iho i kona kūlana ma ke kamailio pili ponoʻole - i loko o kekahi hihia, 'aʻole e lawe piha kuleana no ka meaʻawaʻawa loa minute, a' aʻole i absolve iho ia pau.

A eia i kaʻike o ka hana i

Ma keia hiʻona nā i ka hookamaia, a kaʻike o ka hewa a me ka nele o ke kaua. Assertiveness - mea he pololei ka auhau o ke kanaka o kona mau hana. Eia ka papa kuhikuhiE mea - hoʻomaopopo i ka manawa malaila, a me ka laulā o ko lākou mau hana. Alaila, o ka assertive kanaka ke hoole hapai manao, a hiki ina ia e luku aku i ka manao ma na mea e ae.

Kue ole assertiveness?

Assertiveness ma kaʻike manaʻo ua maopopo i ka wa e kaawale aku o hou kaua. E hiki koke hai aku i keia 'ole e hana ole he mea he kaua, a laila,ʻaʻole nō he mea e malu ai o kona manao. Eia naʻe, he nui kanaka manaʻo no laila, - i ko lakou mau pomaikai a me nā pono kīvila hiki ke kokua aku ma e kue wale. A laila, e pono e kapa ai i ka manaʻo o "kaua". He mau pahi a me ka 'ehaʻeha o oukou paio ana, ka clash o kū'ē pomaikai, pahu hopu a me he manao la noʻu. Ma keia ho'ākāka 'ana, ia mea nui i ka ike i ka hookui, a ua kapaia ka hakakā, mau mea naʻau, affective a me ka huʻi. Mauʻekolu aʻe loa ka mea ku ole i ke kumu o hiʻona assertiveness - kaʻike o ka hana, aggression a me ka nele o ka pono helu o ka i komo i loko o ka launa pu, a me ka nohona ma kulana. Mākou ke olelo aku i ka assertive kanaka e noho like loa me oe i i komo i loko o ke kaua. Maoli ai, ua haawiia mai ka luna hana i kekahi me ka pilikia nui ma, he pono e ike i ke kuleana pilikino,ʻaʻole wale nō, akā, i ka pono upbringing o ke keiki.

Assertiveness - manawa o ka hiki e olelo "ole"

Loa pinepine iʻalo mākou me ia mau wahi, i hiki, ka wā e pono e haʻi aku i ke kanaka "i", akā, ua hiki ole ke hana ia no kela kumu, a laila ka mea, ia lakou iho i ae mai ia. E aʻo i ka mahalo ia lakou iho, i ko lakou mau waiwai, e hoomalu aku i kona pono, e mea nui i ka ike i ka wa e haawi mai ma luna o kekahi mea. Assertiveness - o ka hiki e olelo "ole." No ka laʻana, ke kahua: oe e ku ana ma piha kaʻa'ōhua me kaʻeke i loko o kekahi lima, kekahi lima e paa ana ma luna o ka handrail. Ke alakaʻi mele, mai kekahiʻaoʻao o ke kaʻa'ōhua ninau mai kekahi ia oe, e hoouna aku i ke kala no ka hele ohua i loko o ka 'ē aʻe hopena. Oe i ka mea pono ole, e hoolilo i ke dala mua, no ka mea, o kona mau lima i'ō i, a hiki haule iho, a me ka lua, aole i makemake e kiʻi i kou mau limaʻino ma luna o kekahi mau dala ma ka huli. Inā ma kēia kahua hoole, e hoomalu aku i ko lakou mau pomaikai, oe e e hewa no na ohua a me ke alakaʻi mele, akā nō maalo ae la oia i ke kala, oe e e waihoia me ka manao o keʻano'ōhumu mai, a me ka mea hana kue i pono. He aha e hana ai? E hoʻoholo!

Na rula pehea e olelo "ole"

1. Mua o nā mea a pau, e pono ia e concise. Inā e hoʻomaka e wehewehe i ke kumu ma ka au mamuli, ia e ia me ka olelo e.
2. He nui ka hōʻike e pili ana i ka mea 'ē aʻe' aoʻao. 'Oe ke hoolea aku paha kākoʻo ole aiʻaʻahu i ke kaumaha o ke kuleana no kanaka hana.
3. I kekahi manawa oe wale pono e olelo aku ai "ole." He mea nui makau i ka olelo, manao iho la ia i kona nele ia ka lokomaikaʻiʻia mai i ke kanaka. Akā, me ka naueue ole "i" ka nui maikaʻi a clearer ma mua o ka languid "au e i ike."
4. Oe i ke e hoʻopono. Oe i ka mea pono i kekahi olelo hooholo, no ka mea au i kou manawa e i hoomaunauna aku ai. No pono e hana excuses.
5. Paakiki. Inā e loaʻa insistent interlocutor, a me ka ia i manao oe e hoohuli i kona kākoʻo pāʻoihana o ka pilikia, e pono e "i" kekahi mau manawa oe a paa.
6. I ka wa e kaawale aku hewa. 'Aʻole pono e olelo aku nei ia oe i ke koikoi paha e oe i mihi i kou hoole ana. Inā 'oe e hiki ke hoala i ka popo, no ke aha mihi kēia iā ia? A mai vzvalennoy kuleana.
7. E malama ana oe ia oe iho. Mua o nā mea a pau, e pono i ka manaʻo e pili ana i kona noʻonoʻo a me ka uhane ke ano. Inā 'oe e olelo "Ae" -' o ia hoʻi, e hahi i ko lakou mau pono kīvila a me ka pono, ka mea, Ua pono, e lawe i ke ku pono ana kulana. Ia mea i ka mohai. No ka, i kekahi manawa no ka pono o ko lākou mau mea aloha, ke kaumaha kekahi mea nui no lakou iho. Eia ke hele mai i ka mua i ka ninau o nā makakoho, kuleana pilikino.

He aha ka mea - neassertivny ke kanaka?

No i makakoho i loko o kā lākou hana i nā loina o nā kuleana pilikino, ua pono ike ia he mea kekahiʻaoʻao i ke dala - neassertivnoe hana. Ua hiki ke ho'ākāka 'ia me excessive palupalu, paha palaualelo, e like - lōʻihi kaukaʻi ma luna o' ē aʻe. E noonoo oe i kekahi kahua ma i keia hana hiki ana:

- he kekahi mea i malama i ka OEʻoihana i loko o ka noho i loko o ka pae ana o kanaka;

- ka mea, e leie aku oe i ka e hoʻoholo no ia ia;

- aia no he mālama abdication o ke kuleana ma ka seemingly maikai kumu;

- makau e hoʻomaka i ka noho aloha, no ka mea, e ole makemake e pana aku au i ke kākoʻo 'ana;

- hoike aku haʻahaʻa ka hoʻoponopono-ʻia - i ke kanaka Kahalaopuna nawaliwali, aʻoi aku ma mua o ka mea'ē aʻe;

- ae ho'āʻo ana i ka noonoo ana o kekahi poe;

- slowness i hana ma muli o ka avoidance o ka pilikia a me nā kuleana;

- apparently e like me ka mea'ē aʻe,ʻaʻole e lawe i ka mooolelo o ko lakou mau manaʻo a me ka makemake;

- makaʻu i ka hana a he leo i ka kekahi, a me ka hoʻoponopono-ia ia ka poino.

A ke kanaka me ka hana i loko o koʻu naʻau loa ua ehaeha loa, e like me kona koho pinepine hoole aku paha i loko pono kīvila. Kona ola hoʻomaka ka ai-kapaia io pōʻaiapuni. He aha aʻole ia ke ano o? Neassertivny I kekahi kanaka ke launa mai ka nui kanaka underestimate, e hoomaka mai loko iho "ai", hoomainoinoia au me na mea pohihihi e pili ana i kā lākou mau uea, hana, pomaikai nui i loko o ke ola, hoemiia kuleana no lakou iho. No ka mea, o keia, e pono e haʻalele iā ia iho, hoomaka ae la oia e noho i ka papalua ke ola: ma ka kekahi lima, i ka mea, a pau ka nui i ka makemake a me ka pono, ma ka kekahi lima, ia i hiki ole ka hoike ia, a hoʻopale ai. A pau i kēia hiki alakai i ku pono ka pili ma me kanaka, o ka nele o ke aloha oiaio. Assertiveness - mea he pono ka AaOIeIOUIeXAOAaIN o kanaka ole innuendo a me ka conjecture.

Pehea e ike ina oe assertive kanaka?

Ka pilikia o këia pakiko-hilinai e hoʻokō ka pomaikai, assertiveness pauku epa a me ka 'epekema o ka uhane - mauʻike manaʻo. E hooholo i ka pono o ke ano, e hiki ke hele i kekahi wahi no ka hoao assertiveness, nīnau aku i akamai ai, e mālama i kā lākou hana ma ka maʻamau o ke ola. Ma ke ala, i loko o ka manaʻoʻike 'epekema o ke kilo introspection (introspection) a mea o ka nui, no ka mea, e he nui nui o ka' ike e pili ana i ka ua hoʻonānā wahi uku paha. Nolaila, ia mea nui, e mālama Track o, me oe e olelo aku nei ina e loaʻa ka mea paakiki, e hoomalu aku i ko lakou mau mea e pono peacefully, ole kāna hana e lawelawe, a no laila, ma luna o "ole" akaka ina oe i ka aggression i ka kekahi 'aoʻao. Ke pono ala i ka ike iaʻu mai ka mea, mawaho o ka manao o ka mea i aloha ai e pili ana i kāu hana.

He aha e hāʻawi mai iā mākou i ka loina o ke kuleana no lākou hana?

No ka mea ulu kūpono 'ana o ke kanaka ia mea nui ia e assertive kanaka. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, i ka mea ana mākou i ka hoʻomaopop 'ana i ano a me ke Akua, i ko lakou mau makua, ke malama no i ka wa e ola ana, loaʻa i ka pomaikai a me ka hooiaio ana'ku i make me ka hewa ole i hanaʻia ma ka haʻahaʻa ka hoʻoponopono-ʻia. Hana ma luna o ka loina o assertive hana, e loaʻa iā kākou ka i ka pahu hopu, a hiki i kiekie, a i ka hoʻokō interpersonal pili.